Hi Zoe, I am looking for the Author of this article to ask him some more technical based questions on specific aircraft PCN's.Ok, we have two interesting issues here. Supposing you think the person you want to contact has had what is colloquially known as a "sex change". Or maybe you've misunderstood, and are contacting a relative, a sister perhaps? How do you broach the subject? To get it wrong would be a gaffe of not just massive, but truly Cosmic proportions. Bidenesque.
Hope you can help,
On this one - don't sweat the small stuff. The author handled it exactly right. Say who you're trying to contact, making no assumptions.
The next interesting issue of etiquette is how does the receiving party answer? Say "I had a sex change - fortunately, they had one I liked." or similar? Or just acknowledge that they're the party being contacted, while pretending not to notice the Elephant in the room.
Again, don't sweat the small stuff. If it's necessary to mention it - as when being contacted by a former colleague with the possibility of meeting up some time to say hello - then do so. "You might have noticed a few small changes since we last met...". But if it's not necessary, don't bother. They're not interested in your life story, just trying to find someone who might be able to help.
Well, that's how *I* handle it, anyway.